When you hear the word "Vulnerable" you automatically think negatively. You related it to someone being "taken advantage of" or easy to "get over on". Even the dictionary saids,
1. capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt, as by a weapon: a vulnerable part of the body.
2. open to moral attack, criticism, temptation, etc.
I believe that definition but with vulnerability comes lessons we dont learn until after the event has taken place. Right? Here's what i thought out:
“The Powerful Unknown”
Vulnerability is not….
Truth: All human emotions/vibrations are based on either love or fear. Nothing else. No "grey areas". One or the other.
Truth: Love and fear can’t exist in the same space. You can fear to love, therefor unable to love or accept love given or you can be VULNERABLE to love and be open to receive and love it back.
Poor vulnerability: always getting a bad rep. It’s looked at as a weakness when it is quite the contrary. I think we’ve wrongfully associated vulnerability with fear when it’s actually one of the purest forms of love. The negative connotation associated with vulnerability is purely fear-based. Fear, essentially, is a four-letter word we’ve assigned to the negative feeling/vibration (False Evidence Appearing Real, or so, somewhere I read this).
We’re TAUGHT to put up walls. (What baby YOU know has animosity or a grudge or a chip on his/her shoulder? Lol). Walls are born from personal experiences, hearsay, eye-witness accounts, expectations, age, media, “the norm,” rumors, stereotypes, generational/familial influences... etc etc. It is our RESPONSIBILITY as mature, self-aware adults to teach ourselves to take them down. These walls (self-protection methods) cause more pain and suffering than their absence. Walls are debilitating, if you think about it. Don’t mistake them for strength. We put up walls to feel "less VULNERABLE" when in fact we're only making the fear noticeable!!
..::THINK ABOUT AN ACTUAL WALL::..
It’s strong, sturdy, provides protection, creates barriers, it keeps things inside (preserve) meanwhile stopping (deflect) others from entering.... Get my drift?
Think of YOUR “wall” as an emotional dam. You are single-handedly stopping the flow. The flow of: possibilities, experiences, love, freedom, strength, truth, self and many other aspects of your well-being. Negative energy is released when walls/guards are let down. It opens up the space for a free flow of pure, boundless, filter-free love aka positivity.
The importance of awareness in the equation.
You need be aware of yourself, your thoughts and your emotions. In most cases, you naturally/instinctively are vulnerable then you ALLOW fear to interject, THEN the “protection” arises. Walls are build. Relationships slowly and unconsciously become relation-shits. #kanyeshrug
The importance of resilience in the equation.
Shit happens! We have to be able to repair self in order to move on. AGAIN, a little (or a lot of) introspection never hurt anybody. Be truthful with yourself. Take accountability for your faults. Learn from them and move on to the next lesson. That's the beauty of being VULNERABLE!
Break your dam. You only get 1 life, and you're told to live each as if it we're your last so allow yourself to BE. Be vulnerable. Be free. Letting go is essential to your happiness, peace of mind, and overall well-being. It can be uncomfortable. In my mind, it’s supposed to be. Nothing worth having comes easily. Vulnerability comes natural to us, we just have to make the CHOICE to embrace it.
Homework: I’d like for you to be aware of your emotions and thoughts as they arise. Notice when fear is present. Notice your “auto-self-protection” mode that you habitually enter. Intervene. Choose vulnerability. Choose openness. Choose freedom.